Refrain From Fighting in Front of Your ChildrenDivorce is often associated with strong negative emotions. Anger, disappointment, sadness, and even hopelessness can surface during a divorce. For your children, the time may be even more painful. This is especially true if they’re moving, changing schools and leaving friends. As you and your ex-spouse navigate the details of your separation, it’s important to shield your children from the negative emotions you may feel towards each other.
- Constrain heated arguments to private spaces during times when your children aren’t likely to hear. If you know you’re angry with your spouse, schedule your phone calls or conferences during times when your children are in school or visiting with friends.
- Give yourself ample time between tense phone calls or meetings to unwind and regain your composure before seeing your children again. Take a walk, do breathing exercises or try to meditate. If going for a drive helps you relieve the anger or aggression you feel, do it. Find your own personal de-stressing techniques when things with your ex-spouse are most tense.